sadsongsandwaltzes:

Sometimes I look through perverse “trad” accounts and I have to wonder if they don’t actually just hate traditional living and that their accounts only exist for the purpose of tearing it down. It is so disgusting what I see on these accounts sometimes. But regardless if these people are sincere or not, they’re still basically sharing instruction manuals on how to abuse and it makes my stomach churn.

So let’s set some things straight. Ladies:

  • You are not “property.” You are still a human being created in the image of God. Your husband can’t just “do with you as he pleases” as you are not just some old rag doll.
  • The family does not revolve around the husband. The family is a complete unit. Yes, you should dedicate your life to serving the family— as should your husband. That’s the whole point. If your husband isn’t sacrificing for your needs too, he’s not a godly husband.
  • In fact, he should be sacrificing up to the point of laying down his life for you. He is to love you as Jesus loves his church. If he is not considering your needs, then he is not following that model. True leadership in the Christian sense is about serving others, not taking what you can from them.
  • God gave you a brain, too. You are allowed to have your own opinions and feelings. Approaching your husband to tell him what you are thinking isn’t “speaking out of turn.” How is he supposed to know how to care for you if he doesn’t know what you want or need? Besides, you two should constantly be growing together. How do you expect to do that if you don’t know what the other person is interested in or something new that they’ve learned?
  • Harkening back to my first point, that means you also aren’t a sex toy. He cannot abuse your body. Neither are you a slave.
  • It is not your husband’s place to “discipline” you. It is his job to correct you when you are wrong, yes, and it’s also your job to correct him when he’s wrong. But not discipline. He is not your father. This is ridiculous. That is perverted and disgusting. Stop it with this nonsense.
  • You are allowed to separate if he’s abusing you. Please get help. I’m serious.