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Cosmo got something right for once

Or, ya know, maybe he was abused by his ex-girlfriends… cause that happens too

True
But more often then not that is not the case
When a dude says ALL his exes are crazy chances are he’s just a piece of shit

Or he could literally be dating crazy girls.

I know a guy who kept dating legit crazy girls and the codependency they’d form left every break up a train wreck.

My cousin was told by his now ex if ever broke up with her she’d rip his dick off.

Yep. That sounds like a crazy bitch

One of my brothers ex’s stalked him for two months. This included trying multiple times to get on a military air base, showing up at my house (and my parents house) to try and get us to talk to him, attempting to take my niece out of school without his permission on several occasions, and a host of other things.

My first serious girlfriend was physically abusive and struck me on the back of my head every time she thought I did something stupid. It is now very difficult not to flinch when it looks like someone’s going to strike me in the head.

My second girlfriend has had numerous on-again-off-again relationships with different guys before and after me. While that’s not an issue in of itself, it was because she was fickle and played it up for drama. A guy that would do the same would easily be called a womanizer.

My last girlfriend was suicidal before we started dating (I was the one that talked her out of it; we were friends before we were in a relationship), and she would constantly tell me how she was worried that I would leave her and wouldn’t know what to do with herself.

On top of being emotionally distant from me outside of her own sex drive, she made it impossible to express grievances without worrying about how she’d take it. Ironically she decided to end the relationship on her own and ceased all communication with me with no reason given. Only after the relationship ended I learned that half of what she was doing could be considered abuse, and I can only guess that, maybe, she knew/realized that. If I wasn’t broken enough from my family situation, I’d say I’m plenty broken after her.

I’d say all 3 of my exes were crazy to some degree, even if I still loved them, but they never suddenly changed during the relationship. They were crazy coming into the relationship and left just about as crazy. If anything they all made me crazy. And now, more than likely, I’m either going to find someone else that’s crazy (keeping up the trend) or be turned down by people that assume I’m the asshole (if the OP is any indication of what will happen when the topic of exes come up).

And reflecting upon all the ways I was wronged by my own significant others, the fact that I rarely knew or even considered that I was the one abused (or treated as insignificant) really shows just how little we tend to teach guys about keeping themselves safe. At least not without assumptions of sexism or being talked over by the countless voices calling us the oppressors.

–Mod Griaule

Crazy people can also be predatory. One of my brother’s exes was in a support group in which she told people about how she abused my brother and how he always just let it all happen. Subsequently, another crazy skank from that group thought to herself “Imma have a go at him!” and so he got stuck with another crazy GF.

It’s not always the guy’s fault, OP.

Some people are mentally ill, mentally unbalanced, personality disordered, or just unstable enough to be a very bad girlfriend or boyfriend. For purposes of this conversation, “crazy”. And these people tend to be drawn towards or more inclined towards relationships with people who permit them their foibles, supply them their unreasonable needs, and/or tolerate their abusive behaviors. So some people, who are too tolerant and patient and reasonable for their own health, will draw “crazy” relationships rather consistently. It is not through any fault of their own, they don’t deserve the misery they get, but the people that have “crazy exes” consistently are a specific type that does exist.

Must admit I thought the OP had a point – but then I remembered how people rarely blame a girl for dating jerk after jerk, the reaction is more “she attracts/is attracted by them, she can’t help herself poor girl”.

I can easily imagine the same holding true for guys. Some want to help, and get sucked in, and never learn, much like girls who want to fix the bad boys. Others are vulnerable themselves, and predators like prey.

Personally I’d remain initially cautious of crazy exes people (regardless of gender), but be ready to change my mind.

People fall into patterns when dating, and generally go for the same type, usually without even realizing it. It’s completely possible to have a long string of bad experiences because of that. A better indicator would be how well they hold relationships with other people, and if any of the exes have left a trail.

Hey, @cosmopolitanmagazine, what does it mean when a girl says, “All my ex-boyfriends are crazy”? Is she a piece of shit, too?

Every woman is crazy on some level. Also, guys, we have a bit of crazy in us, too. The trick is to find the one with the level of crazy you can deal with on long term. This advice is given after 23 years of experience (marriage) and still working on it daily.

25 years here. And yes, it requires daily effort on both our parts. But I wouldn’t trade her for anything.

I think it’s along the lines of girls falling for bad guys. They think they can save them.

Attention, ladies: He’s not a fixer-upper. He’s not a DIY renovation project. He will change if he wants to. You can’t make him. If you try, he’ll just resent you.