What is a healthy marriage even supposed to look like? Send biblical sources pl0x
My apologies I should’ve been more clear, I understand the basics but im wondering how it looks in application? This might be a question for the people who have been married for awhile though.
No marriage is perfect but I feel like my husband is an amazing, Godly man. Husband loving his wife like Christ loves the church and wives submitting to their husbands, mutual respect, God being the foundation of that marriage and both husband and wife trying to live out the fruits of the spirit but a real world application? There’s a lot of grace and forgiveness. What it means for a husband to love his wife as Christ loves the church is for the husband to uplift his wife to God. He is the spiritual leader of the home. He is to guide the entire family in the manner that God wills it. If the husband is not following God’s will, the family can crumble. My husband takes full responsibility of the choices he makes and that’s a little bit what wives submit to your husbands means. It doesn’t mean I’m doormat, no it’s far from that. My husband and I have mutual respect for each other and our ideas, our thoughts, our opinions but at the end of the day on decisions I need to allow my husband to lead us and if that decision fails, he takes full responsibility for it. Not just personally but BEFORE God. Marriage is sacrifice. Marriage is work. It isn’t a feeling. Love is an action and Christ showed that by dying on the cross for us. A healthy biblical marriage is one where both spouses are equally yoked, they aren’t idolizing one another and instead put God front and center. The husband is leading the family spiritually, sacrificing, protecting and providing for them whereas the wife is supporting him, teaching, uplifting him. I LOVE these verses to showcase how a marriage should function:
1 Peter 3:7 “You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life.” A husband HONORS his wife. Is understanding, is gracious towards her. He is not resentful towards her- Colossians 3:19
Ephesians 5:28 “In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” I mean this is powerful. You shouldn’t defile your body. Your body is a holy temple and this scripture showcases how a husband should view his wife! Holy! To not be defiled. To be uplifted to God! A husband is responsible for properly leading his wife, not just physically but spiritually!
For wives we know what submit means but here are some other verses
Titus 2:3-5 Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.“ Wives are helpers, we are one flesh with our husbands. Don’t gossip about your husband to other people. Don’t be argumentative. A godly wife is one who fears the Lord and follows His path, takes up the fruits of the spirit. A wife uplifts her husband.
Proverbs 31:10-31
An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. .” This verse so beautifully describes the importance of being a good wife. It’s not even the beauty that matters, it’s her character her entire being! She lives an Asher (blessed) life.
Sorry this is so long! But basically a healthy marriage is one where both spouses are TRYING to live out the fruits of the spirit, following God’s will and living out His commandments. We aren’t perfect, so forgiveness and mercy and grace are so important. My husband and I NEVER go to bed angry at each other. We always openly communicate how we feel. We don’t yell at each other, we talk and listen. We sacrifice things for one another but it’s never one sided. There’s a balance. I put God first then my husband and vice versa. My spouse comes first before any other person and that also means other family members. It’s filled with the type of love that Christ embodies, that Christ is. We are trying to be more Christ-like and marriage really helps you to do that because it helps train you to be forgiving, merciful, patience, self-controlled, kind, loving, not prideful, not jealous, etc.
A healthy marriage is one that brings HONOR to God and makes other people wonder what it is in your marriage that makes it so fruitful and joyful. Christ is that reasoning.
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