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patron-saint-of-smart-asses:

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identityconstellations:

identityconstellations:

here is some advice from your honorary older sister ☺️

IT 👏 IS NOT 👏 SHALLOW 👏 TO NOT DATE 👏 OR BREAK UP 👏 WITH SOMEONE 👏 WHOSE GOALS ASPIRATIONS AND MORALS 👏 DO NOT👏 ALIGN WITH 👏 YOUR 👏 OWN

that’s called being MATURE. you recognize that you want different things out of life and you wish each other the best and move on. stringing somebody along with the idea that you “may perhaps possibly fall in love with them” is still stringing them along.

cut 👏 them 👏 loose 👏

because if you’re staying in a relationship because you need somebody to make you feel better about yourself……….that’s not a true relationship

love 🤗 your honorary older sister

this especially goes out to Christians inexperienced with dating and their “”“"friends”“”“” who think that they need to convince them (their loved ones) to settle and accept a match that really doesn’t work out because it’s “shallow” to move on from a relationship that didn’t have the same goals 👀👀👀 like im watching you Jeanine bc that’s toxic and you’re gonna get shanked with a prayer chain okay 👀

Also, from your honorary older brother, don’t get guilted into a relationship. I’ve seen a lot of Christian dating advice that goes like “if one of your friends wants to date you and you have no interest in them that way, you should date them anyway and hope that you can make yourself fall in love with them,” like no, that’s a good way to totally destroy your friendship and also how soul-destroying would it be to be the friend who fell for you to find out that you were faking and you only dated them to humor them? I know that there are always exceptions and that there are happy couples who did the above and did end up falling for each other hard, but on the whole I would say that dating someone you don’t have any romantic feelings gor at all is a really good way to hurt everyone involved.

“Say yes to a date you may not care about” is okay *general* advice, but only in the realm of casual dating to get a feel for who is out there, or making it clear to the other person that you are seeing if there is a spark. Otherwise, don’t bother.